When I met them, they were going on 20 years of marriage and still madly in love. At 30 years old, I was beginning to wonder if I'd ever get married, when I met a handsome barista intent on a future as a children's pastor.We started leading a small group together for other single young adults, and a month later we were dating.While on the other hand, some people need a few months, or maybe even a couple of years to make sure they are not making a mistake by choosing to further commit to someone new.
While this is a normal sensation when the flame is new and the passion is wild, couples that have been together for extended periods often lose this feeling of overwhelming infatuation while in the midst of one another.
Posted by Quentin Witt in Black Love Advice Just how fast is “too fast” when we talk about the progression of relationships?
What are the signs that it’s time to take it down a notch, let it breathe, give it some space?
This was the case for Lyneta, who says that her first marriage, which came about in the short span of 10 months, ended because of domestic violence. "I mistook possessiveness for love (because my family of origin wasn't healthy either), and ignored all the red flags pointing to abuse," she told me.
"I think if there had been more time, I might have recognized the volatile nature of his control over me.